It doesn’t seem like it would be that common, a woman entrepreneur with a low self esteem. It is far too common and perhaps you are struggling with this same issue.
What is low self esteem, anyway? It is an image of low or no value that you hold of yourself. You may feel you will not amount to much and you compare yourself to everyone with feelings that everyone is “better” than you, “prettier” than you, “wealthier” than you, “happier” than you, etc. Self esteem is really about how much you value, appreciate, accept and love yourself.
Low self esteem is established early on in childhood, usually. The doubts about your worth are either reinforced or diminished by your parents, teachers, friends and siblings. No wonder so many struggle.
It took me a very long time to build up my own self esteem. It was all about burying myself in personal development books, spiritual development books and business development books.
A low self esteem is when the “ego” part of us plays tricks with our minds. To define “ego”: That part of yourself that recognized the physical self. That’s it, nothing else. It is neither good or bad on its own. However, when given a lot of power over your feelings and thought processes, it labels, it categorizes, it heightens or diminishes worth of others and of yourself. Ego is not just about heightened status, it can also be what drives depression, sadness, and even anger.
When you are comparing yourself to others, you are allowing ego to rule your feelings.
One of the best self affirmations I have used to diminish ego was something I heard from Wayne Dyer:
“We are spirits having a human experience, not humans having occasional spiritual experiences”
When you take your emotions into this realm, you can diminish thoughts of “less than” and eliminate the comparisons you make of yourself to others. It takes regular and consistent awareness of your own self talk, but this can be done.
Keep “playing” (I do not like the word “work”) at this and begin to love your life and remember, its OK to not be OK sometimes, but it does not mean that you are not lovable.
Katheryn L. Olsen
Self-Mastery Coach for Entrepreneurs
Transformational Public Speaker