Law of Attraction: Is Action Required?

law-of-attraction-basicsThere is much debate right now in many online forums, discussion boards, LinkedIn, Facebook, etc., about whether or not action is a requirement to harness the law of attraction.

This is just a surface question which has called for a lot of introspection on my part as an expert in this area. I have been asked this several times over the years and I have noticed the debate is really coming to a head.

At first, when you examine this question:

Does the law of attraction require action for one to harness it?

On the discussion board that I have been involved with, so many are jumping in and saying, "YES! Of course it does!"

My answer has been a bit different. I have dug deep into the question itself and come up with other questions that call for answers before you can answer the initial question. Those questions are:

law-of-attraction-actionWhat does the term "action" really mean?
Has anyone defined this term as it relates to the law of attraction?

As I see it, action means "movement" in the physical sense, such as making a phone call, setting up a website, paying for a marketing campaign, networking, participating on a blog, posting on online forums, etc. Effecting change through movement and/or communication. Some other people see action as deliberate focus on certain thoughts to create the feelings that charge the universe to harness the law of attraction.

The underlying question really is:

Are you vibrationally aligned perfectly to receive what you are asking for?


If you are, then there is NO action required to manifest what you are asking for. The vibrational match is enough to bring it to you instantly, you just ask for it.

If you are not, then there may be some sort of action required, however, the extent of action is determined by how out of alignment you are emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically.

So, if you are not aligned vibrationally, then ACTION IS REQUIRED.  See my take on this and how the law of attraction has evolved by clicking here: Law of Vibrational TheoryTM.

I read a fellow bloggers post the other day and the name of this blogger escapes me, but she is a fitness trainer of sorts and compared using the law of attraction to training to compete in a marathon.

marathon-running-law-of-attractionShe related it to a skill. If you have been sedentary...basically a couch potato...for the last 10 years, you simply cannot expect to get up and manifest your fitness immediately in order to run a marathon. It takes training, practice, conditioning. This is the same with the law of attraction. This is the alignment factor. If you had been training, running 20 miles a day for the last 5 years, you could get up off the couch and enroll in the next marathon and manifest this end result immediately. You are aligned and you became aligned through your action over the last 5 years.

What most people had become frustrated over is that they thought that the law of attraction stated that you could simply think about something and have it manifest into your life.

vibrational-thinkingDo not get me wrong...THIS IS TRUE based on what I said above.

For most people, they are not vibrationally aligned with what they are asking for so the Universe waits for you to become aligned vibrationally...then what you are asking for is delivered...period. That is the trueness of the above statement.

I just experienced vibrational alignment today without intentional thinking or action to manifesting something I wanted. Here is what happened:

My husband and I are actively looking to buy a new home. I set up to go view a really nice home this evening for 5:30 p.m. Over the weekend, I spoke to my husband about it and we both realized he works until 7:00 p.m. tonight. We agreed that I would go see the home and report to him whether or not I even like it and then we could set up another viewing with him.

vibrational-alignment-law-of-attractionHowever, this morning, I simply said to myself, "wouldn't it be nice if he could come with me tonight." Within 1/2 hour, I received an email from my real estate agent asking if we could move the home tour to 7:30 p.m. tonight because he had a class he wanted to take advantage of this evening.

There was no action on my part to have manifested this except that I silently made a statement of what I wanted and then it manifested.

I do this with car parking spaces, too.

So, for the most part, when you are asking for a change in finances, a new job, something that you are very out of alignment with and you know it, then ask for it and watch for the opportunities that come your way. When out of alignment, take action on those opportunities that inspire you.

Katheryn L. Olsen
"Coach Kat"
Self-Mastery Coach for Entrepreneurs
Transformational Public Speaker
Author, "SOS, Success Or Sabotage"

Women Entrepreneurs: Self Mastery

self-mastery-women-entrepreneursI remember the moment I realized that I didn't have to have hurt feelings or emotional pain surrounding different challenges or events in my life. I was 30 years old and had discovered and began to embark on an accelerated journey of spirituality and self.

What I realized was this:

Others do not hurt me.  I hurt myself.

Let me explain...

I set up the expectations on how others are to treat me and act around me. Whether or not those expectations are realistic is something to look at...something to inspect.

In the olden days of hurt feelings, in my mind, it was those around me that were supposed to act certain ways and when they did not, they have hurt me. When they did not live up to my expectations of them, they hurt me.  When, really, it was my setting the expectations for them that actually hurt me.  Withough those expectations, nobody could have hurt me the way I thought they had.

marriage-expectations-SOSYes, I know it's simplified.  Yes, I know there are some very reasonable expectations that are commonplace.  For example, I fully expect my husband to not go out and cheat on me because of certain promises we made to each other.  I believe these are reasonable expectations within a marriage.  Although...again, it is the expectation that creates the pain, not the other person.

When you have unreasonably high expectations, this was a way of making others responsible for my feelings, rather than taking on that responsibility myself.

When others were responsible for my feelings, I remained a victim. I gave away my power. I found people, friends, family, who would support and validate this "victim-ness." So, when things went wrong, it wasn't my fault and made me out to be the good guy.

Or, so I thought.

happy-in-control-womanToday, when I see people blaming others in this same way, I just feel pity and hope for them that one day they will take on the responsibility of their own feelings.  It is a delightful feeling, to know and trust that I have the power and control to decide how I want to respond to everything around me, rather than taking the default conditioned road of reactions.  Remember, your thoughts dictate your feelings.

What I have seen this does for you is gives you the power to actually...BE HAPPY. To actually...BE IN CONTROL. To actually...INSPIRE OTHERS.

You see, when you remain a victim, you simply sabotage your efforts of being successful in many areas of your life, including your business.

Women entrepreneurs, I call on you to take back your power, be not only responsible of...but take ownership of...your happiness.

Katheryn L. Olsen
"Coach Kat"
Self-Mastery Coach for Entrepreneurs
Author, "Success Or Sabotage"

Self Sabotage: a Personal Story

self-sabotage-talkI talk alot about self-sabotage and how to avoid and eliminate actions that are sabotaging.  I talk alot about how to use the Law of Vibrational Theory in getting out of your own way.  I talk alot about women entrepreneurs and the unique challenges we have.

Most recently I have found myself again in a loop of my own self sabotage.  I have attracted several issues into my life to make myself so busy addressing them...that I have let my blogging and my website promotions slip by the wayside.

Keeping yourself so busy that you are in a constant state of potential overwhelm is an elusive way to sabotage yourself and I find myself doing just that!

self-sabotage-fightMy husband has had a constant battle with the Utah Office of Recovery Services in getting his child support withholding corrected.  They have consistently taken way too much out of every single paycheck for the last two years.  From our accounts of his paychecks and what ORS has on file, they owe him a refund of overpayments of over $2,200.

For two years we have been fighting to get his withholding corrected, now that it's correct we are fighting to get the refund owed back to him.  They cannot track down where the overpayment funds went.  It's complicated because they are collecting for an Alabama order and Alabama is not cooperating, either.

What we ask ourselves at this point did we attract this?  How can we use the Focused Expansion Rule and the Law of Vibrational Theory to resolve this and find some peace and resolution?

law-of-attractionWe finally called for an administrative review at ORS of the entire file and the officer is auditing the file, however, she cannot find over $900 of the overpayment and has told us that we very well may not get it back! It doesn't seem like much at all, but it IS money that my husband worked for and deserves to receive without the government interceding.

I have started to visualize a check in the mail for the amount owing to him.  I have asked him to do the same. We are creating a check to put on our vision boards this week. With love, respect, peace, expectation and the feelings that are there when we receive that check are all now being transmitted to the Universe.  We are working on detaching emotion from the work of obtaining the monies, the follow up calls and emails, and we are giving it to the Universe to calmly and quickly resolve.

Wish us success.

Katheryn L. Olsen
"Coach Kat"
Self-Mastery Coach for Entrepreneurs
Author, "SOS, Success Or Sabotage"

Vision Boarding as a part of the Law of Vibrational TheoryTM

As many of you already guessed, and like many of you, I am a big follower of Oprah who isn't?

I have been taking down items from my vision board as they are achieved, and I have recently been adding a few items to it, and I just wanted to share with all of you this photoshop I did:

Kat and Oprah Work Together
Isn't it clever???

Katheryn L. Olsen
"Coach Kat"
Author, "SOS, Success Or Sabotage"
Self-Mastery Coach for Entrepreneurs
Transformational Public Speaker

Law of Vibrational Theory: An Introduction on How the Law of Attraction Has Evolved

The-Secret-law-of-attractionOver the years, I have watched, studied, observed and participated in the law of attraction and how it has evolved.

I first read about this body of work through Esther Hicks and her book "Ask and It Is Given," and then I soon found out about the DVD "The Secret."  The Secret was a very simplified introduction to the law of attraction and the book "Ask and It Is Give" takes you a bit deeper into the law.

In recent years, I have read so much about how people are frustrated with the law of attraction and how it doesn't work and how you have to take action to align yourself with the universal vibrations of what you are asking for.

"The Secret" simplifies the law of attraction and helps you understand the basic concepts that define the law of attraction. In order to harness the law of attraction you have to understand these three simple steps:

law-of-attraction-steps1) You ask,

2) the Universe answers every time; and

3) you allow or receive.

Many have taken these three steps and used them with success and many have taken these same steps and failed miserably, only observing how the law of attraction brings to them the negative thoughts and energies they surround themselves with.

I'm not sure which one of these explains you. I also took these same three steps and used them. What I knew and know about the Entrepreneurial Mindset I put into practice along with these steps. Only recently did I realize upon deep meditation, that I discovered an expanded law, an evolution of the law of attraction, that I now term the Law of Vibrational Theory.

Even though the law of attraction sounds good, it had been simplified, and it spreads hope for better and more positives futures for people. There are steps that you still have to figure out, though, such as "how do you allow?" What does that mean?

Allowing is the most critical of all three steps and the step in which you have the most control.

The Law of Vibrational Theory has seven steps and fills in the gaps that left so many questioning how to really harness the law of attraction. The seven steps to the Law of Vibrational Theory are:

decide-what-you-want1. Decide what you want. You would be amazed at how many people have not really decided what they want!

There are two ways you can do this. One way is to get really specific and detailed in what you want so you can get very clear and focused on it with your emotional energy. You may even create a vision board to help achieve this.

This way is the most popular way, so far.

The other way is to be very general, such as "bring me a car that is reliable, gets great gas mileage and that I will enjoy for the next five years." The universe will begin to line these energies up for you. Then, from what you want, begin to set goals. Even though the Universe takes care of the "How," you can still take steps to create action items or goals.

vision-boarding2. Write down or create a vision board based on your goals from step 1. Write down as much as you can and then add to what you create as you evaluate each month what it is you want in your life and in your business. This detail is SO important.

If you do not use the visual aspect of writing the words down and/or creating a vision board, you will miss out on creating the focus of emotional energy needed to activate the Law and the Universe. There are many tools available to successfully do this in the book, "SOS, Success Or Sabotage."

goal-setting3. Decide and research what tasks need to happen for each goal to be achieved. In goal setting courses, this is often referred to as breaking down the goal. Research roughly how long each task is going to take to complete. You might be way off in the beginning, but this step is critical in becoming successful in harnessing the Law.

meditate-for-law-of-attraction4. Meditate to achieve a vibrational match to the goal. This means that you meditate on the emotional energy of the goal. Creating the emotional energy feeds into visualization, which is the next step.

5. Visualize. This attaches the emotional energy and feeling of expansion and it allows you to put yourself in the space of having the goal. It allows you to feel what it is like to achieve the goal.

doubts-around-4-itty-words6. Address the four "itty" words and your doubts around them. Once you address these, they may not totally go away. Sometimes they rear their ugly heads, but you will have strategies to identify and remove the doubts around them. Those four "itty" words are: ability, believability, deservability and permissibility.

7. Once you have removed the doubts around the four "itty" words, your goal or desire will happen every time.

What is interesting is that although the goal may not happen exactly as you have planned it, it is still important to plan and set goals.

The end result that you were wanting to manifest may come forth in a different form. It is up to you to identify it if it presents itself in a different form.

love-law-of-attractionA good example of this was after my divorce, I was in no rush to find love, although I had not lost all hope on love. I had always attracted men of a different ethnicity, which was fine because I had been married to a black man and have two beautiful mixed race sons.

So, I assumed that I would probably get together with another man of a different ethnic background when I found love again. I was mostly attracted to men that were tall, fit and quite handsome.

About 6-7 years ago, when I met up with an old school friend I had known since 3rd grade, whom I had a crush on throughout my younger school-aged days, I had no idea that seeing him again would make my heart skip a beat!

family-bondsHe did not fit the mold of what I thought would be attractive. He is of Caucasian descent as am I. He did not look like the young man I had known way back in school. He had gained several pounds, as had I. He had a full salt and pepper beard and mustache, which was an attribute in a man that was never attractive to me.

However, I was so attracted to him and he IS handsome, I was amazed. I never had been attracted to the "bear" type, but I was attracted to him and I looked beyond the physical. If I had not been paying attention with an open heart to what I was asking the Universe for and what I was manifesting, I would have missed out on the love of my life, my current husband and subsequently my youngest son.

The Law of Vibrational Theory works, if you are just willing enough to learn and master how to harness it. You will find success every time!

Katheryn L. Olsen
"Coach Kat"
Self-Mastery Coach for Entrepreneurs
Transformational Public Speaker
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Problems Faced By Women Entrepreneurs: Self Mastery

Woman-entrepreneur-self-masteryIn working with entrepreneurs throughout the years, I have found that the majority of them have been women.  Women who have been fairly successful up to the point of seeking me out.  Some had just been starting out and wanted the pathway laid out for them to minimize the learning curve and get to their end goal much faster.

That is one facet of my coaching and mentoring, but back to the subject: self-mastery.

What is considered self-mastery?  What is the definition?

According to


[self-mas-tuh-ree, -mah-stuh-, self-]  Show IPA


self-masterySo, according to the definition, it is very basic, self-mastery is the same as self-control.

The reason so many of you may feel a lack of success or a lack of speedy results towards your end goal is because of the lack of self-control.  This also points to the lack of focus.

The lack of self-control and the lack of focus all points to the sub-conscious conditioning of the employee mindset I have talked so often about.  The employee mindset...the way of thinking that is not necessarily self guided, but guided by external sources.  "Waiting for further instruction," which many of my clients, after having this pointed out to them, completely agreed that this is where they had been stuck.

Discovering this one factor, identifying with it and looking it straight in the face, helped in eliminating that pattern of thought, therefore eliminating that pattern of self-sabotage behavior.

How do you identify if you are in the employee mindset?  That is a good question.

women-entrepreneurs-networkingWhen you look at your activities, let's say...your marketing activities.  Are the majority of your marketing activities passive?  In other words, are you placing advertisements and waiting for the phone to ring?  Passive activities would be categorized as leaning towards the employee mindset.  If your marketing activities were more active, such as face-to-face networking, then you are moving towards the entrepreneurial mindset.

When you not only take full responsibility but full ownership of the direction of you and your business, then you are moving towards self-control, hence self-mastery.

Katheryn L. Olsen
"Coach Kat"
Self-Mastery Coach for Entrepreneurs
Transformational Public Speaker

Art of Allowing: Reflections on Esther Hicks and “Abraham”

law-of-attraction-evolving-esther-hicksI have been listening to Esther Hicks recently. I have been a fan and follower of Esther Hicks for many years.

The CD I have been listening has an excerpt from a live recording of an Art of Allowing workshop where Jerry Hicks is narrating from the book and the live workshop from "The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent."

As I have been listening, I have been hearing messages and items that I had not heard before. Have you ever had that happen? Listen to a CD over and over again and continue to get something new from it every time?

I have also been reading and researching for years what others have to say about the law of attraction and Esther and Jerry Hicks are the pioneers of the concept and named it "law of attraction." Although, the concept itself is centuries old.

Action-LOAThe biggest message lately is that the law of attraction does not work without ACTION.

This is what all the buzz is about and how people who have failed at using the law of attraction gripe about. This is another reason that I had developed the Law of Vibrational Theory, to incorporate action steps into the basic law of attraction.

So, about taking ACTION...I believe the law of attraction DOES work without what is conventionally seen as "action." The action that is sometimes needed is a change in a belief and the exercise of that neuropathway to charge and energize the new thought pattern.

There have been too many cases and stories of healing based on the powerful use of the mind...only. Is this considered action? This IS considered the law of attraction.

manifest-great-parking-spotI personally have attracted the clouds to stop raining on three different occasions by chanting "I want a dry windshield", AND a deer to appear seemingly out of nowhere on a state highway I was traveling...simply because I announced excitedly that I wanted to see a deer! I also manifest open parking spaces within 4 spots from the front of the store, every time.

These examples, out of many, did not REQUIRE action, just thought, good feelings and a "rocket of desire" going out into the universe.

What I see happening for so many people is that they are not lined up with receiving what they are asking for from the Universe (hence using the law of attraction to get it). In the cases of where action is not used or required, then the individual does not require action in order to receive and have what they are asking for come into their experience.

vibrational-matchingI see how the understanding of the law of attraction is evolving and in more than 90% of all cases of using the law of attraction, some form of action is absolutely necessary in order to find the vibrational match to what you are asking for.

IF you can find the vibrational match of what you are asking for without taking action, then what you are asking for can and will still manifest into your experience.

The big word in that last sentence: "IF"

Katheryn L. Olsen
"Coach Kat"
Self-Mastery Coach for Entrepreneurs
Transformational Public Speaker

Problems Faced By Women Entrepreneurs: Sexism…Yes, Sexism

problems-faced-women-entrepreneurs-sexismI never thought I would come face-to-face with the sexist attitudes some men still have about powerful women in business! I thought it was something that "others" may have experienced and that it did not matter if only a small few thought less of women because we are intelligent AND good looking

...but I was wrong.

I was a part of a group for a short period of time called "The Universe of Thinkers" which I thought was a group discussing and supporting strategies around harnessing the law of attraction, so I joined it to see if I could contribute my own insights and learn more from others ideas.

skeptical-about-law-of-attractionWhat I did not realize is the group was a law of attraction skeptics group, and I only realized it after offering some insights to those who believe the law of attraction...and the related Law of Vibrational TheoryTM, is akin to witchcraft or silly magic.

The more I read through the posts, the more I realized that these people, like so many who have had difficulty in understanding and applying the full law, believe that if you just ask the universe for whatever you want, it will magically and instantly appear.  They did not understand that the third step of allowing or aligning is the ACTION part of the law.  This is where I have developed the Law of Vibrational TheoryTM to assist you in harnessing the action part.

It was a very misinformed group. I shared with them that the law of attraction does not judge whether something is right or wrong, it will just manifest for you that which you think about and feel about.

U.S. Marines from Lima Company 3rd Battalion, 6th Marines aim their weapons during a shootout with Taliban fighters in Karez-e-Sayyidi in the outskirts of Marjah districtMy posts were met with the outcry of world injustices and how could the law of attraction apply to those victims of genocide, war, rape, and threat of nuclear attack? If the law cannot apply to everyone then it cannot be considered a universal law?

My answer:

Those in power know how to harness the law of attraction, unfortunately for control and power over others. The DVD "The Secret" discusses this in the very beginning. When those who are unaware of this law, they cannot harness it and are victim to and reactive to this law.

Nobody ever said the law of attraction was always used for the greater good. This is why it is so important for all of us to educate and spread the word about how to harness not only the law of attraction, but to master the Law of Vibrational TheoryTM.

Now, to get to the sexism part...

Portrait of a female executiveOne gentleman by the name of Frank could not come back and counter my posts with anything intelligent so all he had to say was, "did it ever occur to you that the only reason people take you seriously is because you are a very attractive woman?"

Now, I see this as an interesting and fascinating remark, don't you?

If I was not so independent of the good opinion of others, this remark may have angered me.  I responded with a kind remark, a clarification and asked him "this is all you could come up with?"  His reply was, "not just you, but women who are good looking and have a 'tude."

Why is it that women who act confidently, are comfortable in their expertise and successful are treated like this by some men?  When a man acts with confidence, is comfortable in his expertise and successful, they are respected and considered leaders by other men.

teach-others-how-to-treat-youI really do want to believe that this is a small portion of the population because this is really the first time I have personally experienced this behavior.

As women, we deserve to teach others how to treat us. I do not want to attract the type of negativity that group was involved in. It was rampant with pain bodies that I was no longer willing to interact with.

If you are not familiar with the term "pain body," you get to buy "A New Earth" by Eckhart Tolle to learn about it.  It is available at Amazon.

You also deserve to teach others how to treat you and this comes from treating yourself well, with respect and with love.

Katheryn L. Olsen
"Coach Kat"
Self-Mastery Coach for Entrepreneurs
Transformational Public Speaker

Self Mastery: What Is a Soul?

OprahandMayaJust a couple days ago, I was watching Oprah's Super Soul Sunday when her guest was Maya Angelou.  I was watching it with my husband, relaxing and remembering seeing Maya on one of my favorite Tyler Perry movies, "Madea's Family Reunion."

Oprah asked Maya at one point, "What Is a Soul?"  Maya had a good answer on what she thought a soul is.  It was a bit vague, but still a good idea and opinion.

As soon as I heard Oprah say that question, though, my mind downloaded and I had to grab a sheet of paper and a pen to start writing what my idea of a soul is and I wanted to share it here.

My husband was astounded at my idea of what a soul is.  What I wrote down is this:

"The soul is that part of us that claims a part of the Source Energy as our own and the ego gives it a label.  The soul concept is difficult to understand and define from the vantage point of our linear existence, since the soul is not linear."

Okay, so you may be saying, "wait...what?"

linear-existense-self-masterySome of you may be aware of what I mean by a linear existence, so I will define what I have learned from years of learning from many spiritual masters on the subject of ego and spirit.  Especially Esther Hicks, Deepak Chopra and Wayne Dyer.

What I have learned is that we live according to how time is laid out.  Time is a way that our brains and minds can track events and the "now" as it unfolds.

This is the way our minds can learn, understand and act on our surroundings.

There are a few books out there that have challenged my mind with this one statement, "everything happens simultaneously...our past, present and future are all happening right now."  This is difficult if not impossible for our minds to grasp since we have been taught and live in events happening in a sequence, according to time.

Time is a man-made concept.  So, our linear existence, according to time, is something we made up to put structure to how we experience our surroundings.  This is also the reason that many "sourcerers" (those who are of The Source) out there can master "self" by understanding our linear existence.

Our minds are very powerful.  Powerful beyond our comprehension.

Katheryn L. Olsen
"Coach Kat"
Self-Mastery Coach for Entrepreneurs
Transformational Public Speaker